Daddy Academy: Building Men of Character for Our Time
Lead by Otto Kelly the Daddy Academy Program for men will address fatherhood and family issues. Otto is the Executive Director of the Crisis Pregnancy Center. He has been married for over 28 years and has two adult sons.
We are in monumental times. There is a great need for strong, uncompromising men and fathers of courage. Many guys have lacked the fathering that is essential for success. Without a positive example of what it is to be a man, guys are adrift. This can lead to frustration, anger, promiscuity, and violence. Many role models encourage guys to seek pleasure and praise for themselves alone. This self-centered attitude is then passed on to their children. This cycle can stop with you. We need to be reminded that we are designed to serve, teach, protect, and care for our families. We are to walk in honesty, integrity, and accountability. We are to be the man we respect in others. You can be that man. We can help.
Our goal is to help men with:
- Family Preparation
Some of the devastation of fatherless homes
- 73% of all incarcerated males come from fatherless homes
- 63% of all youth suicides come from fatherless homes
- 71% of all dropouts come from fatherless homes
- 50% of all incarcerated women come from fatherless homes
- 85% of all children that exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes
- 54% of all children from fatherless homes are poorer than their father
- 65% of teen pregnancies occur as a result of fatherlessness
Effects on fatherless children
- 77% greater risk of being physically abused
- 87% greater risk by being harmed by physical neglect
- 80% greater risk of suffering serious injury as a result of abuse
- 120% greater risk of being endangered by some type of child abuse
Statistics provided by National Fatherhood Initiative
Daddy Academy has been developed for the purpose of addressing issues facing today’s man in a knowledgeable, real, and uncut manner. Our wives, fiancées, children, brothers, and sisters need us to man up, put in work, and regain our posture of servant-hood, strength, and noble conduct.
You desire this as well. It’s time!
– Otto Kelly
You are not alone in this situation. The two of you can get through this. She needs you now more than ever. It’s vitally important that you provide her with the support she needs – emotionally and physically. Here are some tips on how you do this.
What to do:
Listen to her and talk with her. Keep the lines of communication open between the two of you at all times. DO NOT close yourself off emotionally because this situation involves more than just you!
Be there for her. You need each other.
Talk with the people who care. In addition to keeping the lines of communication open between the two of you, it’s important to discuss the situation with parents and others who will be directly affected. Keeping this a secret will only add to the stress – yours and hers.
Educate yourself. Collect information and seek advice from people you trust.
Be honest with her and yourself. Own and share how you feel. You’ll be surprised at how much it will help her to know that you share the same concerns. You’ll be surprised at what you learn about yourself. And you’ll be proud that you’re standing tall together!
What Not To Do:
Don’t run from your responsibilities. The more you try to avoid this situation, the harder things will get for the three of you. Now and forever.
Don’t pressure her to do what you want. You both need to work together at all times. You’re a team now!
Don’t stop communicating with her. Express your feelings and add your input whenever it’s needed.
Crisis Pregnancy Center offers several programs for guys including social events, parent classes, counseling, mentoring and more.
Family Preparation: Family is the foundation of civilization. We want to equip you with the tools you need to be a great and wonderful father. Your fatherhood will affect generations.
Abandonment: There those of us who have been abandoned by father’s either by death or departure. We cannot help but to ask ourselves why? Often time these nagging questions can dictate our thinking and consequently our conduct. Our heart is to help that young boy inside the grown man. It is important to realize that our father’s could not give us what they did not have, however you can bless you children by giving them the presence of a loving dad.
Identity: Sometimes as men our a lack of self identity can lead to confusion and bewilderment. As a result we can pursue negative things in an attempt to fill this natural need. Our hope is to offer concrete and proven methods to help you on this road of self discovery. This in turn can assist you becoming a even better dad.
Hopelessness: There are times when things seem hopeless and out of control. The key word is seem. We want to help you recognize that to every situation there is a solution. We have father’s who mentor in our Vantage Point program from all walks of life. They have faced a plethora of circumstances chance are they have faced what you are facing. We are here!
Validation: We as men and father’s must have a sense of significance. When we feel as if we are not being heard we have a tendency to become frustrated. Validation is an essential need we all have. We as a group of men gather together to encourage, validate, and support each other.
Anger: The world in which we live can be hostel, uncaring and cold. We are aware of the many foes facing father’s. One of the service we provide is an atmosphere of peace and support. We have access to professional counselors if needed. However often time it is a place to unload in a safe and confidential environment that’s needed.
Integrity: Integrity: The quality of being honest and having a strong moral compass. As father’s we are our children’s definition of integrity. We must come to grips with the fact that we are their first role model. Due to shifting values in our culture it so important that our children find in us integrity. Our guys night have topics and tools available to help us be a great role model for our young ones.
Communication: As men it is important for us to recognize that sometimes the way in which we say something and the words we say can be in opposition. Often times this can lead to a communication breakdown. Vantage Point can provide you with helpful methods of communicating clearly.
Providing: As father’s it is our responsibility to provide for our children. In most cases one would assume it’s just financial. This is important however, love, affection, presence, and participation, are key areas of provision. We want to help you in these and other areas in being a wonderful and strong vessel of provision.
Otto is the Executive Director of the Crisis Pregnancy Center. He has been married for over 28 years and has two adult sons.
Clarence is currently the Interim Pastor at Second Baptist Church in Reno. He has been an advocate at the Center for over a year and enjoys working alongside Otto, Mechele and Joy, as well as all the advocates. Clarence feels blessed by the joyful and spirit-filled atmosphere, working with the men of God encouraging the young dads who come through the Center’s doors.
Married for 20 years, Christian is the father of four boys. He is active in church and the community and enjoys helping others. Christian moved to the Tahoe area from the mid-west thirty years ago and enjoys spending time with his family on the slopes, camping and cycling.
Ed is a long time member of the Reno-Sparks community. Married to a great lady, Ed has a blended family of 6 adult children. God has blessed Ed and his wife with 9 grandchildren and 1 great grandchild. He is retired from the automotive parts and tool business and loves this area and the people. Ed is a member of South Reno Baptist Church and is one of many volunteers at Reno Crisis Pregnancy Center. Ed also supports The Special Olympics and volunteers with the golf program.
Larry is blessed with a wonderful wife and a handsome son. He has held many different executive positions in his life but feels the best job he’s ever had is being a dad. Larry has a passion for working as a volunteer mentor with new dad’s or dad’s-to-be at CPC and sharing some of the “dad lessons” that he’s learned along the way. When Larry is not working, he and his family enjoy things that have wings or wheels. This includes classic cars, motorcycles (on & off road) and air race planes.
Michael has lived in Reno his entire life. Much of his teenage and young adult years were spent running wild throughout this city with friends and fellow gang members starting fights, using girls and evading the police. During this period of his life, only his closest friends and family knew that he struggled profoundly with extremely bad depression, anger and hopelessness. In the midst of what seemed to be permanent loneliness and despair, many were praying that he would come to trust in Jesus and be given the hope that comes from Him. Those prayers were answered in early 2013. Knowing that there are many other young men who are bearing a similar burden, perhaps with the added pressures of unexpected pregnancy, Michael decided to begin volunteering at the Crisis Pregnancy Center and feels honored to serve this community alongside other incredible men.